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Friday, May 13, 2011

Flight to Suburbia: Cancelled

I just downed a half quart of cherry cheesecake ice cream straight from the carton which means - I am upset.  I was so upset yesterday that I couldn't even blog about it.  But today I have decided to share because I want all of those following along in our saga to be up to date.  Yesterday we e-mailed the Faraway social worker to ask for additional visits before Frontrunner came to live with us on her "moved up move in date".  We stated that we needed additional time with her and that everything was happening very quickly with last week's news of moving up the move in date to before June 6th when foster parents are going out of the country.  We even suggested using us as respite care during that time and counting that as our visit.  Easy peasy.  Problem solved.  We get another extended visit.  Frontrunner gets to finish out her school year in Faraway.  Faraway social worker gets to take her time with the paperwork.  Anyway, we heard back from Faraway social worker who said there would be no Memorial Day visit or visit for respite care.  There would be no more visits until after Frontrunner graduates from middle school at the end of June.  WHAT?!?!?!  At the recommendation of Frontrunner's therapist, all visits have been called off until late June at the earliest.  What the hell kind of therapist recommends that in order to help with an adjustment to something new, you should totally separate yourself from that new thing for an extended period of time?  We asked for more visits, they in turn took away the visit that was planned.  We were told the decision was a done deal.  Later that night when texting with Frontrunner, we found out that she was aware of this cancellation.  We asked when she found out.  She didn't know.  We asked who told her.  She didn't know.  We asked why it was called off.  She didn't know.  Okay?  Seems a little fishy to me.  What I want to know is why we were the only ones who were not told that this visit was not going to happen?  If we hadn't asked Faraway social worker for more visits, we would still be in the dark.  I understand the main focus here has to be the kid but it seems like nobody is taking the potential adoptive parents' feeling and needs into consideration let alone just keeping us informed.  I feel completely out of the loop.  One minute they are pushing her here early.  The next minute we can't even get a visit.  I am just worried that we are getting strung along or forced out of the picture for some reason.  I try not to say too much to Frontrunner but she is the only one communicating with us at this point.  We tried to talk to the therapist.  The proper paperwork wasn't filled out on Faraway social worker's end.  She tried to bail on Frontrunner's last visit as well.  If she wants her to be adopted, why doesn't she want her coming here.  She's the one that matched us and chose us as the adoptive family.  I'm not going to make any comments on how I feel people are doing or not doing their jobs.  It is your conclusion to come to based on what you now know.  Our social worker is trying to get some answers for us and in the meantime, we will be talking to the guardian ad lidem to see if he can answer some of our questions on Frontrunner, the process and anything else he can possibly tell us.  All we can do is wait to get some answers.  This process is hell.

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